Life Is Short
We all heard it in our youth: "When you get older, time seems to slip through your fingers."
Some things can only be learned by experience. The true value of time is one. Any sincere young person could tell you that time is our most important asset. Yet it seems that until we've lived long enough to feel a twinge of regret for time wasted, we won't truly understand its worth.
As my sweet wife mentioned in a recent blog, she is a perfectionist. I am too. When you're a newlywed perfectionist it's easy to be patient with your spouse's faults; after all, you have years to refine them! But alas, their habits die almost as hard as ours; the toilet paper is still mounted backwards.
Sound silly? Maybe. But those little sources of irritation, if we allow them to affect us, will drain the joy from our marriage.
A few weeks ago I was thinking about my remaining years of life. For some reason, I'm beginning to see that my days are numbered. It's time to get my priorities straight. Am I accomplishing anything that matters for eternity?
When it comes to marriage, there's alot to enjoy. Suddenly, realizing that my time on Earth is limited, those petty irritations of married life or child-raising don't seem to matter as much. Or at all. Each moment spent fretting about something minor is a moment in which love could be expressed instead.
Me? I'm going to start overlooking people's faults more often, choosing rather to appreciate them for who they are. There is so much criticism flying around these days; the old "Ten pounds of praise to one pound of correction" quip is rarely practiced. I can't think of one relationship in which I've maintained this 10:1 ratio. It's especially hard with those close to us - we're afraid that praise will make them think we accept them they way they are. God forbid we let them off the hook!
Love your neighbor as yourself. Do to others as you would have them do to you. Is this really that hard? I think not. Life is short, and the return on love's investment comes quickly.